Ten years ago...
Friday, June 1st
At about 4:00 am I heard a knock on the door from Adam's little sister telling me it was time to wake up and get ready to go.
Adam drove his dad's truck while his Mom and siblings rode in the fifth wheel travel trailer he was towing. (His dad would be joining us in couple days with some of the priests in his ward).
On the drive, we were able to talk about our individual hopes and dreams for the future.We talked about where we saw ourselves in 5,10, and 20 years, and about our parents and how we were raised and how we'd like to raise our children. It was clear that we had the same desires for our families and the same goals and desires for our future.
At some point during this very personal in depth conversation we noticed that Adam's little brother Richard had stowed away in the back seat of the truck. We thought he was sleeping. (Later, we found out he was faking....little turkey) We had a lot of time on that drive to really learn about each other and become closer.
After a brief stop in Durango, we went on to Silverton where the Cabin was. It was early evening when we got to the little trail that leads to the cabin. (You can't drive right up to the cabin because the bridge that crosses the river isn't strong enough for vehicles)
The bridge to the cabin had been damaged by the snow run-off that spring and needed to be fixed. since it was already late in the day it was decided to work on fixing the bridge the next day.
After dinner, Adam took me on a buggy ride on a King Quad up Stoney Pass. The views were breathtaking and as the sun set, the moon rose and lit up the glaciers on the mountains that surrounded us.
Adam turned off the buggy and we walked around for a bit. We talked about "us" and I told him my mind was pretty much made up about things, but that I hadn't fasted and prayed yet to know for sure. He echoed my sentiments and we decided that since that Sunday was fast Sunday we'd spend the day Fasting and praying about "us".
Just before we got back on the buggy Adam took me in his arms and looked into my eyes and said "I am so blessed". Then told me that he had made a promise to himself he wasn't going to kiss a girl until he knew that she was the one he was going to marry then he said " I really want to kiss you now." And he kissed me on the cheek..... And I prayed that the cold sores on my lips would clear up by Sunday.
Saturday June 2nd, 2001
We spent the day working on fixing the bridge to the cabin. Once again, I marveled at what a hard worker Adam was and if felt so natural to be working side by side with him.
I was able to get to know his family better and once the bridge was completed we were able to drive the buggies to the little cabin and get the boys all moved in. We played some cards and watched a movie and went on another buggy ride. I was having the time of my life.
Sunday June 3rd, 2001
I woke up early and found a quiet place to pray. I told My Heavenly Father that Adam was everything I wanted in a husband and that I loved him. I asked him for confirmation to know if a marriage to Adam would be his will and would be a blessing in my life. I kept that prayer in my heart through out the day.
We went to church at the little LDS branch in Silverton. Then, went with the family on a Sunday drive.
Once we were back at the cabin, we played a few games with his family and then Adam and I went for a walk together. We found a large rock to sit down on and admired the beauty of the majestic mountains that surrounded us.
He asked me how I was feeling and I told him that I'd never felt so peaceful in all my life. He told me that he didn't have a doubt in his mind that he should marry me. Then he told me he loved me and asked me if I'd marry him.
It wasn't rehearsed... there was no ring in his hand, and he wasn't down on one knee. It wasn't the proposal that I always imagined I'd get, but It was pure and simple and perfect and I said yes!
(Here is the part where we were supposed to kiss but unfortunately my cold sores had only gotten worse so that first kiss would just have to wait.)
We went back to the cabin and broke the news to his family. Some of his siblings were happier than others... It's kind of a Gurr thing to be somewhat sad when a brother or sister gets married. Richard gave Adam a big hug and through tear filled eyes said "I'm proud of you man!" but, I could tell he felt that he was loosing his big brother.
We drove into town and used a pay phone to call my parents (our cell phones weren't getting good signal).
Adam asked my dad if he could marry me and my dad said "It's fine with me but I'm not the one you need to be asking...it's up to Ruth" I got on the line and told my dad that he did ask me and I said yes. My parents were thrilled and congratulated us. I could tell they were happy with our decision. Then, I called my sister Lydia and she screamed and forgave me for calling her collect (we only had enough change for one phone call but I knew she would never forgive me if she heard the news from someone else).
It was late by the time we got back to the cabin so we said goodnight and I couldn't wait till I could see him, my "fiance" in the morning.
Monday June 4th 2001
Adam's dad would be joining us that afternoon and through out the morning, Adam kept trying to prepare me for his dad's reaction to the news that we were engaged. He told me over and over not to take it personally but that his dad probably wouldn't be to excited. (He gets separation anxiety whenever one of his children decides to get married) .
Sure enough, when Adam told his dad that he was going to marry me, his dad said "What?...Why?" My heart fell, but Adam stood his ground and said "Because I love her, and it's right." Then his dad hugged him and said "Congratulations son." Then he hugged me and said "Welcome to the family".
The rest of the week was spent buggy ridding,snowmobiling, playing games and watching movies. We picked July 12th (just six weeks away) to get married. On our last night in Colorado Adam's dad took us all to the Bar-D-Chuck wagon. It was a great dinner and show and afterwards In the back seat of his dad's excursion Adam and I decided that my cold sores had cleared up enough to have our first kiss....and it was awesome...and worth the wait. ;)